This morning I got the shock of my life. Someone was asking about my girls, but instead of asking how the girls are or how the triplets are, I got
“How are the twins +1”
For those who don’t get why that’s a big problem for me, I’ll explain.
I have two identical girls and one non identical. My biggest fear has always been that Miss Chay, the non identical baby, will feel different or left out or odd. I’ve been praying about this ever since I was pregnant and found out I would have a non identical baby. It always plays heavily on my mind.
When I am walking outside and I am stopped by various people, I usually get
“Ah you have two the same and one different”
But never have I been told you have twins and a plus one!
So, you’re saying Miss Chay is a spare, an extra? Not my child! Please rephrase your statement.
I speak to other triplet mums who have the same problem of people’s insensitive comments, for some it has become a real problem as their children have grown older, for others it hasn’t been such a big deal.
Me… I’m going to keep praying about it. I intend to bring all three of my girls up knowing that they are all special in God’s eyes. That they are all beautiful, and that they are all fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalms 139:14 NKJV
I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
I’m sure the person didn’t mean it in a bad way, but we have to be mindful of what we say to others and how it can affect others.
As always I believe there’s a lesson for me in this. I don’t know about you, but I need to be mindful of what I say and how I say it. I don’t want to hurt others with my words. Think before you speak. Let only words of kindness come from your mouth.
My prayer for myself and for you is,
Psalms 19:14 NKJV
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord , my strength and my Redeemer.
Keep smiling. Stay blessed. God loves you
Triplet Mama Smith x
life of a triplet mama 
The words that pour out of people’s mouths never cease to amaze me. People say silly things all the time and usually don’t even realize they’ve done it. Or if they do…yikes! Thank goodness God gives us two chances to get it right…the words of our mouth and the meditations of our heart. Sometimes our mouths spill out things are heart didn’t intend. Hopefully that was the case with the person who opened theirs about your precious girls. You are so wise to raise them to know that whether the outside is alike or different, God has made them unique. So enjoyed your words!
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Thank you Tiffany. She didn’t mean it. She apologised afterwards. It’s just as you said sometimes we don’t think before we talk.
Thank you for reading and your kind words. X
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Yes it can be fearsome. I can’t say not to worry about those things. However I can tell you to hope and practice what is that makes you feel good as a mother.
People are ignorant, but that can be easily be corrected and forgiven.
Maybe I’m forward for saying this, but encourage your girls to embrace uniqueness and let them know it’s ok to have similar features and that its even better to have different personalities. As a reminder we were created in his image and he wouldn’t love us any different.
Share the love equally and make sure that they share their love equally amongst each other. With this I think you’re bound to be fine.
Ps: The best mother I always knew you would be.
Your sister
Xoxo
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Thank you keke
I definitely will. It’s a difficult one, I want them to be individuals,which is why I’ve always dressed them differently, but I want people to recognise them as three not two and possibly another baby that may make them triplets lol.
Sometimes it’s difficult because I generally don’t have a clue what I’m doing. All I can do is pray that I bring them up as God wants and ask that He irons out my mistakes etc
Thank u for reading xx
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