This morning I got the shock of my life. Someone was asking about my girls, but instead of asking how the girls are or how the triplets are, I got
“How are the twins +1”
For those who don’t get why that’s a big problem for me, I’ll explain.
I have two identical girls and one non identical. My biggest fear has always been that Miss Chay, the non identical baby, will feel different or left out or odd. I’ve been praying about this ever since I was pregnant and found out I would have a non identical baby. It always plays heavily on my mind.
When I am walking outside and I am stopped by various people, I usually get
“Ah you have two the same and one different”
But never have I been told you have twins and a plus one!
So, you’re saying Miss Chay is a spare, an extra? Not my child! Please rephrase your statement.
I speak to other triplet mums who have the same problem of people’s insensitive comments, for some it has become a real problem as their children have grown older, for others it hasn’t been such a big deal.
Me… I’m going to keep praying about it. I intend to bring all three of my girls up knowing that they are all special in God’s eyes. That they are all beautiful, and that they are all fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalms 139:14 NKJV
I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
I’m sure the person didn’t mean it in a bad way, but we have to be mindful of what we say to others and how it can affect others.
As always I believe there’s a lesson for me in this. I don’t know about you, but I need to be mindful of what I say and how I say it. I don’t want to hurt others with my words. Think before you speak. Let only words of kindness come from your mouth.
My prayer for myself and for you is,
Psalms 19:14 NKJV
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord , my strength and my Redeemer.
Keep smiling. Stay blessed. God loves you
Triplet Mama Smith x